Let's Normalize the Not Normal
ADHD doesn't always look like hyper kids bouncing off walls or grown-ups forgetting their keys. Sometimes, it's standing in the middle of your kitchen trying to remember what you were doing. Or sitting in your car for 40 minutes after you've parked because restarting your day feels impossible.
This post is for all the random, ridiculous, wildly frustrating things that neurotypical people breeze through -- and we somehow turn into a full-blown boss battle.
No shame.
No judgement.
Just love, laughs, and a bit of "same."
12 Random Things That Are Way Too Hard With ADHD
1. Taking out the trash
You can walk past it 14 times. You know it's full. You're holding something in your hand that needs to go in it. But do you take it out? Of course not. Your brain simply says: "Not now. Not ever. Die with it."
2. Calling to make an appointment
Dentist? Doctor? Vet? Nope.
Raise your hand if you have literally changed doctor's offices because of the ability to schedule appointments online.
It's like suddenly you're a Victorian child who only speaks in riddles and must write your correspondence by quill.
(Bonus stress points if you have to leave a voicemail.)
3. Switching tasks
Starting is hard.
Stopping is hard.
Switching is existentially impossible.
Your brain doesn't just shift -- it slams into walls, drops all your tabs, and asks, "What were we doing again?"
4. Wearing clothes that aren't pajamas
There's nothing quite like a sensory revolt the moment you put on "real clothes."
Yes, they're cute. But do they feel right?
No.
You've changed 4 times and cried once.
5. Replying to a message you really want to respond to
Text came in 6 hours (or days) ago.
You mentally replied 3 times.
You'll think about it at 2 AM (or in 2 weeks).
You'll never actually type it out.
You'll live in eternal shame.
6. Doing one chore without starting seven others
You came in to do the dishes. Suddenly you're scrubbing the baseboards, organizing a junk drawer, and wondering if your 5th grade yearbook is still in that closet.
No dishes were cleaned. But you are sweating.
7. Eating a real meal
You're hungry. You know you need food. But actually making a decision on what to eat? Impossible.
Now you've had saltines, a pickle, three spoonfuls of peanut butter and an ice cream cone and called it dinner.
8. Going to bed when you're tired
You're exhausted. You've yawned 11 times. But it's midnight and suddenly your brain wants to deep-dive the history of cheese or rearrange your skincare drawer.
No sleep.
Just vibes.
9. Remembering anything that wasn't written down
Names. Dates. That one thing you needed from the store.
Gone. Vanished. Sailed off the edge of your working memory like a pirate ship at sea.
(But you can remember that embarrassing thing from the 8th grade like it was yesterday.)
10. Doing something now even though it only takes 3 minutes
You know it's short.
You know it's simple.
But your brain is like: "Let's wait until it becomes a problem."
11. Opening important mail
Bill? Legal thing? Insurance stuff?
Immediate emotional shutdown.
Even if it's good news -- your brain assumes it's a trap.
12. Asking for help
You desperately need it.
But your shame says "don't be a burden."
Your bride says "just figure it out."
Your brain? Playing elevator music on loop.
Laughing Through the Chaos (Because Crying Takes Too Much Energy)
We laugh, but the struggle is real.
These "small" things pile up -- and the world doesn't see how hard they really are.
But I do. And so do your fellow neuro-spicy souls.
You are not lazy.
You are not broken.
You are doing life on expert mode, and still showing up with humor, heart, and hope.
Try this gentle re-frame:
"If I'm struggling with something small, it doesn't mean I'm weak -- it means my brain is busy surviving."
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